Dear Dr. Solution,
I was driving home today and listening to the oldies channel on the radio when I heard the Righteous Brothers singing, “You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling.” It just made me think of us, especially when they sang, “something beautiful is dying.” I remembered how we were when we first got married and how he couldn’t wait to get home to see me and nothing was important enough to keep us apart. We were so happy then, and life was so good that I thought it would last forever. Lately, though, I’m worried that something is happening to us and really he is losing that loving feeling.
Now it seems he stays at work later and later and have started going out of town on unscheduled business trips without me. I can’t remember the last time we went out to dinner together or to a movie, or even spent an entire evening at home relaxing. We used to share our deepest secrets with each other, but now we hardly even talk anymore. When we first got married, nothing I ever did seemed to annoy him, but lately, as in the song, he “criticize little things I do” more and more often. I’m beginning to worry that something beautiful really is dying and wonder if it’s because another woman has come between us.
I want him to know I still love him. He is the only man I’ve ever loved and my stomach turns over when I think about him leaving. Does he still love me or has he found someone else? I need to know where I stand and I don’t want to imagine things that aren’t true. The strain of worrying is already starting to take its toll, so please let him be honest with me. I need to know what is on his mind and what he is planning to do. There’s no point in trying to save this relationship if he’d already found someone else and there’s nothing left to save.
Dear Doc, what do you suggest?